I love sharing what I’ve learned in kink. With a background in theater and hundreds of hours of teaching experience, my teaching style is open, engaging, and anecdote-filled.
I am also committed to providing education using an anti-oppression lens. My workshops are, as much as possible, designed to be open to everyone: all genders, orientations, experience levels, community backgrounds, and abilities.
Classes are available different formats, based on time available:
- Lecture & Demonstration: My lecture format classes communicate a body of information about a specific subject, giving examples and demonstrations. Questions and discussions are a part of the work, leaving attendees with materials to explore in their own time. These classes are best for 75 – 90 minute class blocks and attendees with known experience levels.
- Facilitated Discussions and Ask-Me-Anythings: This type of class is offered in areas I have deep expertise and comfort with, and uses a broad outline and discussion prompts to allow attendees to explore a topic together, generating new ideas and adapting well to attendees with wide experience level ranges. Best for 45 – 90 minute class blocks.
- Hands-On Skill Development: The majority of my skill share classes use pedagogy from martial arts to work, together, through a series of hands-on exercises and discussions, letting attendees develop confidence with specific techniques, leaving them able to further explore these skills outside of class. A minimum of 90 min is required, and 1+ teaching assistants, depending on the size of the class.
At any event, I’m also happy to provide an ask-me-anything style introduction to the emotional support process that I use in attempts to minimize the formation of long term impacts on con & festival goers after potentially traumatic events. For more details, contact me.
I can offer private coaching in rough-body technique from a safety and sensitivity perspective: contact me to discuss working together.
Is there something you’d like to see me present that you don’t see listed? Please reach out!
Many of my classes have been co-developed with my partner-in-crime, Tormenta, and are co-taught by us as a duo. Where material has been developed in partnership with other collaborators, I’ve directly acknowledged those teachers and provided links to learn more about them. Please see the testimonials page to learn where I’ve taught so far.
Lectures and Demonstrations
Negotiation Skills for Kink
You know what you want, now how are you going to get it? Learn tools for the co-operative creation of great experiences, both in pick-up play and in ongoing relationships. We’ll cover topics to include in negotiations, risks to consider (physical, emotional, social), and how to communicate your fantasies and realities, whether it’s with your friend of 10 minutes or your partner of 10 years. The workshop will include demonstrations and space to try out techniques and discuss challenges and questions. This workshop is geared towards the needs of new players, anyone interested in brushing up their negotiation skills and trying new things with partners, and open to everyone: all genders, orientations, experience levels and abilities.
Time: Minimum 1.25 hrs block required.
Skill levels: All
Based on materials developed by: Tormenta and Robot hugs
Ask for what you want! (AKA negotiation skills for everyone)
Do you want to better advocate for what you want in romantic encounters? This workshop provides tools for the co-operative creation of great experiences, both with people you’ve just met (maybe around the fire) as well as in ongoing relationships. We’ll cover: topics to include in pre-encounter conversations; figuring out what you
want; how to keep those conversations engaged and interesting; risks to consider (physical, emotional, social); and how to be compassionate and creative with the people in your life.
Time: Minimum 1.25 hrs block required.
Skill levels: All
Based on materials developed by: Tormenta and Robot hugs
Rope for Bondage: Selection & Care
But why do some performers rip through a set of jute every 6 months, while others have sets that last many years? Why have natural fiber ropes become so popular and do you have to follow the trend? The further you delve into rope, the more money you’re likely to invest real dollars – in this workshop, we’ll discuss the benefits and drawbacks of different materials; what makes any rope fail; rope treatment options; what causes high stranding and how to fix it; and how to care for your rope to make it last.
Skill levels: Beginner-Intermediate
How to be a Top in Demand
This community bears the promise of abundant play with amazing partners. But how do you get there from here? From building your reputation, to recognizing what you’re really looking for, this class teaches methods for finding recurring, mutually satisfying, consensual play – and building a great community while you’re at it.
Skill levels: Beginner
Risky Business: Risk Management for Kinky Applications
Join an engineer and a martial artist for an in-depth exploration of risk in the context of kink. Together we’ll explore questions like: What is risk? How is it different from uncertainty? How do we assess it holistically? How do we discuss risks with our partners in an open and sexy way? What roles does it serve in play? What influences perception of risk? Can we reduce actual risk while keeping it scary?
Time: 1 – 1.5hrs
Skill levels: Beginner-Intermediate
Co-taught with: Tormenta
Earning your Stripes: Non-traditional Caning
Canes have a scary reputation, but they are highly versatile tools. This class will cover different types of canes, including pros and cons of different materials, how to use canes from start-to-finish in a scene, including for warm up, and caning non-traditional parts of the body.
Time: 1 – 1.5hrs
Skill levels: Beginner-Intermediate
Facilitated Discussions
Ecstasy: A Field Guide for D/s
When most people say ecstasy, they mean either “a religious epiphany” or “bliss.” But the Greeks described this experience much more broadly, literally, as “standing outside of ourselves.” Power exchange is enhanced by exploring the edges and depths of our potentials for psychological experiences, but without language to describe them, negotiating can be challenging.
This workshop will de-mystify ecstatic experience, provide vocabulary to describe it, and include a usable, and down-to-earth exploration of how ecstatic states are relevant in our lives, and how power exchange relationships can support, and be supported by, ecstatic experience to create intentional ecstatic experiences as part of our power dynamics.
Skill levels: all levels
Hands-on Skill Development
The art in rough-housing: a rough body play skill builder
Intrigued by the intimacy of body-on-body play? Punching, kicking, stomping, maybe more? In this hands-on intro class, we will discuss the what, why, and how of approaching this kind of play with respect for your partner’s safety, and talk about ways to build your skills moving forward. We’ll follow this with exercises to experiment with this kind of play yourselves. This class teaches through movement, and is open to attendees of all abilities and levels of mobility.
Time: 3 hrs
Quick and Dirty One Rope Bondage
If you can tie your shoes, you can tie up your partner for fun and excitement. This class teaches a free-form style of rope bondage, which is an easy and creative way to connect with your partner. Please bring one 30′ piece of rope; cotton, hemp or jute work best with this technique.
Reading between the lines: tactile communication in play
There is an entire language of movement, position, and potential energy that lives right under your partner’s skin. Learn the tools you need to understand, interpret and incorporate haptic language, which forms the physical call & response in play and sex alike. This class teaches through movement, and is open to attendees of all abilities and levels of mobility.
Co-taught with: Tormenta
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